"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."
- Carl Gustav Jung
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
Understanding is the key focus of this month’s journey along the road to self-improvement. The goal is is always to be a better person today than yesterday. When we know better we can do better.
In the book, Until Today: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind, Iyanla Vanzant asks:
How many days a week do you spend wondering why you are not further along than you are? Think about that for a moment... how often does this happen to you...
Exactly where is it that you believe you need to be? Knowledge is power... Even if you're mot sure... Spend some time with your thoughts...
Vanzant’s questions can certainly lead to deep reflection... if you allow yourself to stretch.
Vanzant reminds the reader:
You can only be where you are, and it’s up to you to make the best of it.
You cannot get to where you are going until you have learned all there is to learn about where you are.
The things you need to know about you are right where you are.
Is there something you can learn from your present experience? Why isn’t where you are just fine?
"What the mind doesn't understand, it worships or fears." - Alice Walker
It’s frustrating and uncomfortable thinking about where you want to be while living the experience disappointed about where you are.
How can you overcome this pain of disappointment? Why isn’t where you are just fine?
Maggie Wooll, researcher, author, and speaker, focused on the evolving future of work, stated, "disappointments mean you’re living life. And you may be exactly where you need to be, learning precisely what you need to grow. Wooll shares these ways to handle disappoint in the article below:
5 Proven Ways to Deal with Disappointment:
By Maggie Wooll, betterup.com
1. Let it out: Feel whatever you’re feeling and allow it to pass. Research has shown that emotional suppression can hinder ones personal growth. Suggestions to help:
-confide in a friend, family member or even a therapist
-write in a journal
-physical exercise: Go for a walk, run, go to the gym, dance it out...
Be creative. Do what works best for you and allow yourself the opportunity to move forward.
2. Get perspective: Communication with others about your disappointment can bring some much-needed clarity. When you get an outside perspective other than your own, you can begin to see things for what they really are, rather than how you feel about them.
3. Know your own heart: Our sense of self can become skewed when too many disappointments stack up. Remind yourself of your core values and principles. Examine your “why’s.” This will help you get up and try again while keeping your self-worth intact.
4. Practice self-acceptance: Once you’ve checked in with yourself and your supporters, it’s easier to accept where you are as the right starting point for a fresh start. Continually root yourself in the "now." Accepting the present moment allows you to acknowledge what is real. Like breath, disappointment comes and goes. So breathe into it and let it pass.
5. Don’t let it fester: The worst thing you can do is brood over negative experiences. The variable here is time. Once you’ve given yourself some time to come to terms with your circumstances, it’s time to begin again. disappointment could easily move into anxiety, negative thinking, and resentment.
“Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.”
-Winston Churchill
Set yourself up for the win!
Today’s Affirmation: From Iyanla Vanzant, Until Today: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind.
I am devoted to learning all I need to learn about where I am.
What are you willing to do?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional, encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
5 Prove Ways to Deal with Disappointment
Vanzant, Iyanla; Until Today: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind. Atria, New York, NY 2020.
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