“Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
-James Baldwin
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
Hendricks poses this question to ask yourself:
How much must I compromise in order to be in a successful relationship? Think about that for a moment...
Do you have to be right or are you willing to compromise? Whish choice most identifies you...
How do you know...?
Squeeze or roll toothpaste tubes? Stop and ask directions, or blunder along? Toilet seats up or down? The questions are endless, and the questions are small, insignificant, unless you consider them in the context of compromise.
compromise /noun/
an agreement or a settlement of a dispute that is reached by each side making concessions.
Karen Burns, writes in an article for the Seattle Times, “Being an effective — and smart — compromiser enhances all your relationships, including the ones at work.” Here are a few tips from the article:
The art of compromise at work. (seattletimes.com)
1. Look for areas of agreement: Identifying what you do agree on is the first step to settling most types of discord. You both want to ensure the success of your business and both want a safe and happy workplace. Start in a place like this and work your way forward.
2. Seek out the win-win: Conflict resolution doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game. Disagreements can be approached in ways that allow each party to come out a winner. Give a little to get a little.
3. Pick your battles: Some issues are simply not worth going to the mat for, Save your energy and your social capital for the really important ones. Giving in on things of lesser significance puts you in a stronger position to hold firm when the stakes are higher.
4. Keep your emotions in check: When we think (or know!) we’re right, we can become passionate, and this passion sometimes runs away with us. However, cooler heads actually do prevail. You’ll get more of what you want if you don’t succumb to anger or frustration.
5. Be a good winner/loser: No matter what the outcome, determine to focus on the positives. Show your appreciation for the compromises of others, even if you’re still convinced they didn’t go far enough. When it’s over, let it really be over.
Today’s Challenge: Practice "the art of compromise."
Review the steps suggested in the Seattle Times article above
Identify for yourself a small ongoing conflict that you have been experiencing.
Why are you holding onto your position..?
Is it the issue..? Is it control..? Your need to be right..? Be honest with yourself...
Take a deep breath and repeat this Affirmation:
I do not need to be right. I am good even when I am not right.
Let go of the conflict. Identify how you are going to compromise. (This is about YOU, not the other person)
Be a better you and continue to practice the art of the compromise in your daily life.
What are you willing to do to strengthen your skills in compromising?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional... Encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
Hendricks, Gay; A Year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose. Harper One, New York, NY 1998.
The art of compromise at work:
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