“The repressed memory is like a noisy intruder being thrown out of the concert hall. You can throw him out, but he will bang on the door and continue to disturb the concert. The analyst opens the door and says, If you promise to behave yourself, you can come back in.”
-Theodor Reik
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
What represents the “noisy” intruder in your life? Think about that for a moment... the memory that resurfaces periodically and triggers a side not representative of who we want to be..?
Definitions.net explains the repressed memory;
Repressed memory is a condition where a memory has been unconsciously blocked by an individual due to the high level of stress or trauma contained in that memory. Even though the individual cannot recall the memory, it may still be affecting them consciously.
Reading Iyanla Vanzant the other day sparked some curiosity and personal reflection. about repressed memories and possible affects. The author explains:
A repressed memory will push itself into your consciousness to be healed. It will stand up until it receives the attention and recognition it deserves.
Until you are willing to remember the things you have learned to forget, you cannot participate in or benefit from the joys of healing your life.
On a scale of 1 - 10, how would you rate the level of joy you are experiencing? Overall joy... spend some time with that thought...
Today’s Affirmation: from Iyanla Vanzant's, Until Today...
I am devoted to remembering the memories that are controlling my life!
Experience more joy! There is no downside!
To get rid of the memories that may be weighing you down, take a look at the article below.
How to Release the Painful Memories and Emotions Stored in Your Body:
by Jennifer Sterling, tinybuddah.com
Your body keeps a physical memory of all of your experiences. Create an emotional toolkit with these 5 strategies.
1. Non-Judgement: When you feel emotionally triggered and tempted to turn to food or other addictive behaviors for comfort, try not to judge the reaction. Our bodies are programmed to seek pleasure, not discomfort, so it’s natural to try and find something to soothe the pain and make yourself feel better.
The need to soothe yourself with food or other means doesn’t make you a bad person—it makes you human.
2. Permission: Give yourself permission to feel—you have to feel it to heal it.
-Giving yourself permission to feel allows you to have power over it—you control it instead of allowing it to control you, and in the process you create the space to heal.
-The healing process will bring up lots of different feelings and emotions; many will be uncomfortable.
-Allow them to come up without becoming attached to them; notice them for what they are and know that there is a natural ebb and flow to them.
-Allow yourself to witness them without judgment or reaction. This will allow you to respond objectively. Feelings aren’t forever. They come and go, if you let them.
3. Release: It’s time to release the emotion from your body.
-You can do this by gently shaking. Start with your feet and work your way up, one body part at a time, or you can turn on a song that mirrors the way you’re feeling and sing, dance, or cry until you feel physically and emotionally satisfied. All of these things will help give the emotion a voice and move the emotion out of your body.
-Not quite ready to move your body? Grab a journal and write. No filter, no editing; leave the anger, frustration, sadness, and anything else you’re feeling on the page. Feel free to tear or safely burn the pages when you’re done as a symbolic release.
-There isn’t a one-size-fits-all way to release. There will be times when moving your body helps, and other times singing or writing will feel more effective. Choose the method that feels best to you in the moment.
4. Forgiveness: In order to truly heal, you have to be able to forgive yourself. Beating yourself up for past transgressions isn’t productive. You dealt with your emotions in the best way that you knew how. Forgive yourself because you did the best you could at the time, and move on knowing that you have the knowledge and tools to think differently next time.
5. Time: We have a tendency to look for the quick fix, but healing takes time. Give yourself time to fill your emotional tool-kit and understand that healing is a journey—one that lasts a lifetime.
Practice makes the journey easier, but there is no perfection. When needed, reach into your emotional tool-kit and take what you need. You are equipped. You can do this!
“The cure for the pain is in the pain.” -Rumi
What are you willing to do?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional, encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
How to Release the Painful Memories and Emotions Stored in Your Body
Vanzant, Iyanla; Until Today: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind. Atria, New York, NY 2020.
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