“People make a great leap forward in well-being and productivity when they claim responsibility for their feelings.”
-Gay Hendricks
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
Call to mind for a moment things that trigger a strong emotional response or feeling from you...
What’s your why? Your reason for those strong emotions and feelings to surface...
Many of us blame others for the way we feel. It's A natural human response.
“You made me mad...”; “Blank made me angry...”
How can you take responsibility for your own feelings? Think about that for a moment...
Psychologist, writer, and teacher in the field of personal growth and relationships, Gay Hendricks speaks about taking responsibility for one’s feelings: from the book, A year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose
Until you claim full responsibility for your feelings, there is a tendency to believe your feelings are caused by other people...
a perception that puts you in the victim position.
It is unarguable that you are the source of your feelings.
“Taking responsibility means never blaming anyone else for anything you are being, doing, having, or feeling.” -Susan Jeffers
How can we react to this crazy complex world, fully aware that the source of every emotion is within our care?
If you are not sure where to begin, take a look at these strategies from the article below :
What does it mean to take responsibility for your feelings?
from summersaltyoga.com
1. Let it out: Acknowledge your feelings, embrace them, and don’t run away when they become uncomfortable or take you by surprise. Mindfully acknowledge them. Lessons will be obtained, and you’ll be thankful that you let yourself feel it all without playing the avoidance game.
2. Disengage from hurtful interaction: Once passed that distressing point of your core feelings, you will discover that there is a sadness below your anger or fear hidden behind your frustration. When you become aware of that, resist the urge to blame others. Take care of yourself by lovingly disengaging from toxic interactions and getting back to your unmet needs.
3. Loving your Self and your Life: Ask yourself:
How can I maintain my boundaries?
What do l need for emotional healing?
What kind of support do I crave? What circumstances make it easier for me to feel gratitude and joy, to connect to myself and others?
If you’re feeling truly lost, maybe you can do the most courageous thing ever and seek professional help.
4. Stay curious: Use the opportunity to learn about yourself and shift your focus towards that unexplored territory within you. Given that we are constantly changing and evolving, there is no way that you have already discovered everything. So don’t just lean in, dig in and have some fun along the way.
What are your common “hot buttons?”
“If you own this story you get to write the ending.”
- Brené Brown
What are you willing to do?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional, encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
Hendricks, Gay; A year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose. Harper One, New York, NY 1998.
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What does it mean to take responsibility for your feelings?
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