“No man, for any considerable time, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude without finally getting bewildered as to which may be true.”
-Nathaniel Hawthorne
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
There is undeniable truth in Hawthorne’s quote above. I ask that you give some attention to personas and projections:
personas /noun/
the aspect of someone's character that is presented to or perceived by others.
a role or character adopted by an author or an actor.
What role are you playing... How are you showing up? Think about that for a moment...
projections /noun/
the unconscious transfer of one's own desires or emotions to another person.
Has your feedback been constructive or was it a personal projection? Spend some time here...
Gay Hendricks, Psychologist, writer, and teacher in the field of personal growth and relationships, explains this interesting perspective:
When you find yourself complaining about something in another person, apply the same complaint to yourself first.
The magic of relationships occurs when the free and clear part of one person connects with the free and clear part of another.
Here are some signs that you might be projecting:
( by Kristen Beesley, Ph.D. psychologytoday.com)
Feeling overly hurt, defensive, or sensitive about something someone has said or done.
Feeling highly reactive and quick to blame.
Difficulty being objective, getting perspective, and standing in the other person's shoes.
Noticing that this situation or your reactivity is a recurring pattern.
How has projecting affected your relationships? Sit with this question until you come up with an answer...
Today’s Challenge: Master Projection A Call to Action!
(from Gay Hendricks, A Year of Living Consciously)
Ask yourself:
1. What is a common complaint I have about a close relationship?
2. How could this complaint be applied to me?
Through humble inquiry one can learn much and strengthen relationships.
“Our minds influence the key activity of the brain, which then influences everything; perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings, personal relationships; they’re all a projection of you.” -Deepak Chopra
What are you willing to do?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional, encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
Hendricks, Gay; A year of Living Consciously: 365 Daily Inspirations for Creating a Life of Passion and Purpose. Harper One, New York, NY 1998.
How to Spot Projection: Are Those Their Feelings, or Yours?
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