“Advice is what we ask for when we already know what the answer is, but wish we didn’t.”
-Erica Jong
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
Advice is an interesting term. It can trigger many emotions depending on how one receives it.
By definition, advice /noun/ is an opinion someone offers you about what you should do or how you should act in a particular situation. (dictionary.cambridge.org)
Reread the quote above. Assume the author's statement is true and respond to the questions below:
Do you have the strength and courage to do what you know is right for yourself? Think about that for a moment...
How will you know, trust, and express your cultural roots without compromise or apology? what needs to change to allow this to happen...
What can you do to regain you cultural wisdom when you wander away from it? accountability is the key... What's your plan...
If you are looking to make changes and not sure where to begin, check out these suggestions from healthline.com :
6 Tips For Building Trust in Yourself
1. Be Yourself: Remind yourself, it’s OK to be you. Acting like a different person than who you really are is a sign that you’re lacking self-confidence and trust in yourself. Other people will be able to sense that.
2. Set Reasonable Goals: Set many little goals that put you in the direction of your big goal. It will make your big goal more realistic to achieve.
3. Be Kind to Yourself: It is important to love yourself unconditionally. Get rid of negative thoughts about yourself and self criticism after you make a mistake.
4. Build on Your Strengths: Be accepting of your strengths, as well as your weaknesses. Attempt to do all kinds of things without judging yourself too harshly. Do more of the things you are good at and less of the things that you are not as great at.
5. Spend Time with Yourself: Patiently look inward. You can look inward with meditation. 5 to 15 minutes a day is all it takes. Pay close attention to your breath and body. As any thoughts or self-criticisms pass by, acknowledge them and then let them go.
6. Be Decisive: Break your habit of questioning your decisions. Next time you make a choice, stick with it. Even if it turns out not to be the best choice, there’s no use beating yourself up over the decision you made. The best you can do is to learn from your mistake.
What are you willing to do?
Don’t miss your opportunity! Be intentional, encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
6 Tips for Building Trust in Yourself
Vanzant, Iyanla; Acts of Faith: Daily Meditations for People of Color. Atria, New York, NY 2020
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