"Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."
-Yoda
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
What do you fear?
Think about it... do your fears change often, or are there themes or specific things that stand out...
Why do you fear?
What's the pay off, the benefit....?
How do you fear?
Interesting thought... what is your go to response when you're afraid..?
You can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. Once we figure out the “what” and “why”... identify “how” we usually respond, fear loose much of its power.
fear | noun an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
Gay Hendricks, Psychologist, Writer, and Teacher in the field of Personal Growth identifies four major ways we express fear: The Four F's
1. We fight Do you get angry and lash out when your're afraid?
Fighter
2. We freeze Do you get tongue-tied or immobile?
Freezer
3. We flee Run, withdraw, pull back, hide..?
Flee-er
4. We faint Do you become spacey and confused when you're afraid?
Fainter
Which category above best describes how you respond to fear?
Think about it... LOL... I have identified with all four at some point... but which one stands out...
Knowledge is power! Fear is an unavoidable emotion. But don't let fear hold you back. Set yourself up for the win!
Four Steps Successful People Take To Overcome Fear Of Failure:
(Forbes.com Avery Blank, Lawyer/Strategist)
1. Identify what you want: Don't let fear cloud your vision. There is a reason we are told to focus on a motionless point far off in the horizon when you are nauseated. It helps stabilize the body. Think of fear the same way. When you are fearful, focus on the end goal to stabilize yourself.
2. Realize what is stopping you from reaching what you want: Own up to what is making you fearful. Understand what is stopping you so you can overcome it. If you don't see the hurdle, you can't jump over it. Embrace the barrier to break free from it.
3. Own your discomfort: Don't let your fear weaken you. Do not feel shame in being afraid. Find strength in your fear. It is the key to unlocking your potential. Your fear is your power. Own your power! Capture the energy that you are putting into being afraid and use it to conquer your fear.
4. Start feeling comfortable with the uncomfortable: Push yourself out of your comfort zone. "Every 'no' gets you closer to a yes." If you're not feeling slightly uncomfortable, you are not putting yourself out there and not moving towards your goal(s). If you stay comfortable you stay put.
Today’s Challenge: What’s your F-factor?
Are you a Fighter, Flee-er, Freezer, or Fainter? So what? Don't let that stop you...
Identify: Pay close attention to how you respond to fear... now identify what you want.
Own it: Make a mental note, jot down the situation in a journal, understand and acknowledge what is making you afraid.
Conquer: Find strength in your fear. Use that energy you put into your fear to push you forward.
Uncomfortable is the new black: Keep pushing forward. get out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself.
“Whatever you fear most has no power. It’s your fear that has the power.” -Oprah Winfrey
How will you use fear of failure to reach your goals?
Be intentional and encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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Four Steps Successful People Take To Overcome Fear Of Failure
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