“Don't regret the past or fear the future. Both bring misery through self-doubt.”
-Deepak Chopra
How do the words above resonate with you?
Pause here for a moment and free yourself from distractions:
Take a deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... deep breath in... exhale slowly... calm your mind and be present...
How has self-doubt impacted your success? Think about that for a moment...
self-doubt /noun/
-lack of confidence in oneself and one's abilities.
-a lack of faith in oneself
-uncertainty about one's abilities, actions, etc.
Iyanla Vanzant shares this perspective:
In attempting to draw your strength from others you do yourself a grave disservice.
When you know something, know it!
When you believe something believe it!
Your experiences have led you to understand certain things in a particular way, stand firm on what your experiences have taught you.
Experience will bring you greater clarity.
And remember what Mya Angelou told us, … and when you know better do better!
If you are looking to overcome your self-doubt, be encouraged. These tips below just might help:
10 Tips to Overcome Self-Doubt: (from: eugenetherapy.com)
1. Practice Self-Compassion: Remember that we are all human. We all make mistakes along the way and it’s okay to do so. We can mitigate self-doubt and fear of failure by practicing being kind to ourselves, no matter the outcome.
2. Remember Your Past Achievements: It helps to remind ourselves about the times that things have gone right, because the same thing could happen in the present moment. he present moment is a new opportunity to do well, even if things didn’t go right the first time.
3. Try to Not Compare Yourself to Others: They say that comparison is the thief of joy. Everyone’s journey and ideas of success are different. What we can control and focus on is our own path and where we want to take it, regardless of where other people are at or what they have done.
4. Be Mindful of Your Thinking: Imposter syndrome thrives off of these negative thoughts that tell us that we aren’t worthy of the place we’re at or that we won’t produce good work. Next time these thoughts persist, take a moment and ask yourself if you really believe that they are true. Consider how positive thinking may shift your mindset and allow you to be more confident in your abilities.
5. Spend Time With Supportive People: There are people in our lives who believe in us and everything that we’re capable of who will always be on our side. When you’re feeling self-doubt, surround yourself with these people. They can remind you of how talented and resilient you are during times when you’re not feeling that way about yourself.
6. Find Validation From Within: While it’s great to feel reassured from others, it’s important to have our own faith in ourselves. Constant reassurance doesn’t mean much if we still don’t believe in ourselves. Even if we aren’t the most confident about where we’re at, it’s good to practice being accepting of our strengths and all that we have to offer.
7. Remember That You’re The Harshest Critic: We will always be the harshest critic for ourselves. It’s a nice reminder to treat ourselves with the same kindness and compassion that we have for others, instead of being so critical on ourselves.
8. Identify Your Values: Take a moment to assess what matters most to you. When we recognize these values and what truly matters to us, the fear of criticism from others falls by the wayside. When we live aligned with our values, it doesn’t feel as detrimental to be criticized or make mistakes.
9. Keep a Journal: Writing down your thoughts of self-doubt or experiences with imposter syndrome onto paper might be a good release. You may even realize after you see your concerns written down, that they may not be as detrimental as you thought they were. This can help to gradually overcome self-doubt.
10. Seek Professional Help: If feelings of self-doubt persist to the point that makes it difficult for you to function in everyday life it may help to see a mental health professional. Therapy can help us feel understood and give us tools to alleviate feelings of doubt.
“Acting as if you were what you want to become and know you can become is the way to remove self-doubt and enter your real-magic kingdom.” -Wayne Dyer
Today’s Challenge: Be your own best friend!
Know and accept what you know without trying to gain support or validation from others.
Remember: Others may not, or simply do not know what you know.
Now, what are you willing to do be a better YOU!
Don’t miss your opportunity. Be intentional. Encourage others to do the same and watch what happens.
You got this!
Coach Tavia
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References:
10 Tips to Overcome Self-Doubt
Vanzant, Iyanla; Until Today: Daily Devotions for Spiritual Growth and Peace of Mind. Atria, New York, NY 2020.
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